Για ένα ευτυχισμένο και ευλογημένο γάμο: Συμβουλές Αγίου Ιωάννου του Χρυσοστόμου - For a happy and blessed marriage: Tips St. John Chrysostom

Οι πρωτόπλαστοι πριν από την παρακοή ζούσαν μέσα στον Παράδεισο ζωή παρθενική, όπως ακριβώς οι Αγγέλοι, χωρίς να φλέγονται από επιθυμία σαρκική. Δεν είχαν πάθη, ούτε φυσικές ανάγκες, ούτε είχαν ανάγκη της ενδυμασίας, γι' αυτό και κυκλοφορούσαν γυμνοί. Και όλα αυτά γιατί δημιουργήθηκαν άφθαρτοι και αθάνατοικαι ήταν ντυμάνοι με τη θεϊκή δόξα.

Μετά την παρακοή και την πτώση, ο Κύριος επινοεί το γάμο, το "μυστήριο μέγα" κατά τον Απ. Παύλο, και μέσα σε αυτό ο σύζυγος και η σύζυγος ενώνονυται και ολοκληρώνονται ως πρωσοπικότητες με σκοπό την τεκνογονία.

Στη συνέχεια θα δούμε πως ο Άγιος Ιωάννης ο Χρυσόστομος συμβουλεύει και ποιες προϋποθέσεις θέτει για ένα επιτυχημένο γάμο.

Ο επιτυχημένος γάμος είναι αυτός που βάζει σαν βάση επιτυχίας την αρετή και όχι τον πλούτο. Να έχουν και οι δυο ευλάβεια ψυχής, σύνεση και φόβο Θεού. Όπως χαρακτηριστικά αναφέρει ο Χρυσόστομος, μια κόρη που έχει σύνεση και ευσέβεια, αξίζει περισσότερο από όλη την οικουμένη. Πολλοί, αναφέρει, θέλουν να πάρουν για γυναίκα τους μια όμορφη κόρη. Είναι, όμως, αρκετό αυτό για να επιτύχει ο γάμος? Όταν η ομορφιά του σώματος δεν συνοδεύεται από την αρετή της ψυχής, πολύ γρήγορα θα δείξει την κακία της και θα διαλύσει την αγάπη, ενώ οι γυναίκες που έχουν ομορφιά στην ψυχή, όσο περνά ο καιρός τόσο περισσότερο ελκύουν τους συζύγους τους και δυναμώνει η αγάπη τους. Χαρακτηριστικά λέγει ότι "δεν υπάρχει τίποτα πολυτιμότερο από το να αγαπιέται κανείς από τη γυναίκα του και να την αγαπάει κι αυτός."

Ο Χρυσόστομος καταδικάζει την άσκηση βίας και την κακοποίηση της γυναίκας από το σύζυγο της και απαιτεί από τον άνδρα να γίνεται θυσία για τη σύζυγο του, να αποφεύγει τις απειλές και να έχει συγχωρητικότητα. Θεωρεί την επικοινωνία των συζύγων ως θεμέλιο της συζυγίας. Σε θέματα που αφορούν την οικογένεια και τη ζωή τους να τα συζητούν μαζί, με αλληλοσεβασμό, οικειότητα και αγάπη.

Ο Άγιος τονίζει ως στοιχείο αρμονικής συζυγίας την εκδήλωση αγάπης και στοργής, οι οποίες αρετές εκδηλώνονται με την τρυφερότητα και την ευγένεια. Ιδιαίτερα, λέει, να εκφράζεται η αγάπη με λόγια, γιατί οι λέξεις είναι τροφή των συναισθημάτων και αναζωπυρώνουν την αγάπη. Να εκδηλώνεται ο θαυμασμός για τις ικανότητες, τις προσπάθειες, τις επιτυχίες που κάνει ο καθένας, έστω και ένα κομπλιμέντο για το ντύσιμο, την καθαριότητα και το καλό φαγητό. Όταν η γυναίκα νιώσει ότι την αγαπούν, λέει ο Χρυσόστομος, αυξάνει το φιλότιμο της, ενώ του άνδρα αυξάνεται η καλή αυτοπεποίθηση. Γενικά, τονίζει, πρέπει και οι δύο να επινοούν τρόπους ώστε η αγάπη τους να συντηρείται.

Εαν παρ' ελπίδα υπάρξει κάποια σύγκρουση, ο πιο ώριμος από τους δύο θα πρέπει να κάνει το πρώτο βήμα, γιατί μέσα στο γάμο δεν έχει σημασία ποιος έκανε το λάθος και πως και γιατί. Πρέπει αμέσως να ευρίσκεται ο τρόπος ούτως ώστε να διορθώνεται η κατάσταση. Πρέπει οι σύζυγοι να μάθουν πάντα να συγχωρούν και να ανέχονται σκεπτόμενοι ότι και τους ίδιους τους ανέχεται ο Θεός. Για να προλαμβάνονται οι συγκρούσεις, λόγω διαφορών, ή ακόμη λόγω αποξένωσης των συζύγων που συνήθως έρχεται με την πάροδο του χρόνου λόγω κόπωσης και πολλές φορές αδιαφορίας, η αγάπη είναι αυτή που προλαμβάνει όλα αυτά και ο τρόπος που θα εκδηλωθεί και πως θα μιλήσει κάποιος. Λέγει χαρακτηριστικά ο Άγιος: "Πως θα της μιλήσω και τι θα της πω?" Και δίνει την απάντηση: "Να της λες λόγια αγάπης. Από όλα τα πράγματα, εγώ προτιμώ τη δική σου αγάπη, και το χειρότερο που θα μου συμβεί και το πιο οδυνηρό είναι να σε χάσω. Και όσο εσύ είσαι καλά, δεν με νοιάζει και αν πάθω οτιδήποτε ή βρεθώ με κίνδυνο ή αν χρειαστεί να χάσω τα πάντα. Γιατί εσύ είσαι τα πάντα για μένα." Και στη συνέχεια λέει: "Να της μιλάς με φιλοφροσύνη, αγάπη και τιμή. Να την τιμάς κι έτσι δεν θα βρεθει στην ανάγκη να ζητήσει την τιμή από άλλους. Να την επαινείς για τη σύνεση και την ομορφιά της και να της δείχνεις ότι σου αρέσει η ομορφιά της και ότι σε αναπαύει περισσότερο να μένεις στο σπίτι μαζί της παρά να να βγαίνεις έξω με φίλους. Να την προτιμάς από όλους τους φίλους σου, ακόμα και από τα παιδιά που σου χάρισε ο Θεός και εξ' αιτίας αυτής να αγαπάς και τα παιδιά σου."

Τέλος, τονίζει ο Άγιος πως το σημαντικό στοιχείο της επιτυχημένης συζυγικής ζωής είναι η επικοινωνία. Να αφιερωνει χρόνο το ανδρόγυνο, από αυτό που απέμεινε, για να είναι μαζί. Να μοιράζονται την αγάπη τους, τις σκέψεις τους και να μιλάνε μεταξύ τους.

Γενικά, ο Άγιος Ιωάννης ο Χρυσόστομος είναι ο δημιουργός της θεολογίας του έγγαμου βίου. Όποιος μελετά τις συμβουλές του για τον καθημερινό έγγαμο βίο και για την οικογένεια, θα διαπιστώσει ότι το πνεύμα του είναι πάντα επίκαιρο, γιατί βάζει πάντα ως κέντρο των λόγων του το Χριστό.

Στη σημερινή επόχή, που ο θεσμός των αξιών έχει καταρρακωθεί και πολεμείται ο θεσμός της οικογένειας, ας ακούσουμε το λόγο των πατέρων, που εξ' αιτίας του Αγίου Πνεύματος το οποίο κατοικούσε μέσα τους με την αγία ζωή και πολιτεία τους, είναι διαχρονικός και μας δείχνει το σίγουρο δρόμο για μια ευτυχισμένη, ευλογημένη και χριστιανική οικογένεια.

Κείμενο του Πρωτοπρεσβύτερου Πέτρου Πέτρου. Αναδημοσίευση από τα "Χρηστιανικά μηνύματα".

The protoplasts before disobeying lived in Paradise virginal life, just as the Angels without consumed by carnal desire. They had no passions or physical needs or in need of clothing, so I circulated nude. And all because athanatoikai created incorruptible and was ntymanoi with divine glory.

After the disobedience and fall, the Lord invented the wedding, the "great mystery" as the Apostle Paul, and in that the husband and wife enononytai and completed as prosopikotites to teknogonia.

Then we will see how Saint John Chrysostom advises and what conditions make for a successful marriage.

A successful marriage is one that puts as the basis of success and virtue, not wealth. Have both soul piety, prudence and fear God. As stated in Chrysostom, a daughter who has wisdom and piety, is worth more than the whole world. Many, he says, want to get a woman to a beautiful daughter. But it was enough to obtain a marriage; When the beauty of the body is not accompanied by the virtue of the soul, will quickly show the wickedness and will dissolve in love, while women who have beauty in the soul, as time passes, the more attracted to their husbands and strengthens their love . Features says that "there is nothing more precious than to be loved one from his wife and he loves her."

Chrysostom condemns the violence and abuse of women by their husbands and requires the man to be a sacrifice for his wife, avoid threats and have forgiveness. Considers communication between spouses is the basis of nerve. In matters relating to family life and to discuss them together, with mutual respect, intimacy and love.

Saint element stresses harmonious conjugation of showing love and affection, which virtues manifested by tenderness and kindness. Especially, he says, to express love in words, because words are fed emotions and rekindles love. Be expressed admiration for the skills, efforts, successes makes everyone, even a compliment to the dress, cleanliness and good food. When she felt that love, says Chrysostom, increases the pride, while the good man growing confidence. Generally, he says, both have to devise ways to love them maintained.

If perchance there is any conflict, the most mature of the two should make the first step, because in marriage no matter who made the mistake and how and why. It should immediately be in the way so as to correct the situation. Should wives always learn to forgive and tolerate thinking that the same God tolerates them. To avoid conflict, these differences, or even because of alienation of spouses usually comes with time due to fatigue and sometimes indifference, love is the one that prevents all this and the way it will manifest and how to talk to someone. Says the Holy One features: "How would speak and what would say;" And gives the answer: "To say the words of love. Of all things, I prefer your own love, and the worst that will happen to me and the more painful it is to lose. And as you're okay, and I do not care if injured or anything popping at risk or if you have to lose everything. Because you're everything to me. " And then he says: "Let's talk with courtesy, love and honor. To the honor and so will not find the need to ask the price of others. Should be commended for its wisdom and beauty and the look that you like her beauty and that rests more to you live at home with her rather than going out with friends. you prefer it to all your friends, even from the children you gave God and because of this loving and your children. "

Finally, it states that St. important element of a successful marital life is communication. Devote time androgynous, it was left to be together. To share their love, thoughts and talking to each other.

Overall, St. John Chrysostom is the creator of the theology of marriage. Anyone considering his advice for the everyday married life and family, he will find that the spirit is always topical, it puts everything in the center of the grounds of Christ.

Today, the institution that has the values ​​and katarrakothei war institution of the family, let us hear the word of the fathers, who by virtue of the Holy Spirit who lived in them the holy life and polity, is timeless and shows us the sure road to a happy, blessed and Christian family.

Text of Reverend Peter Petrou. Republished from "Christian messages."

Little tips for various groups of foods

Pies: Finishing

General instructions

The decoration of the cake is a free opportunity to let your imagination and your creativity. A beautiful finish make the pie charming.

We present some easy decorative techniques, which will meet in various recipes.

Edges

It is very important for closed pies stick well to the edges, so I need to seal it somehow. The most common and easiest way is to press the teeth with a fork. You can also pinch the hand: the thumb and forefinger.

The decor in open pies are not necessary, but certainly the more beautiful.

Some pies are baked in a pan and you can close the edges by pressing them with a fork or spoon. Some more traditional pies have no base, but only one layer of dough on top. Strips of dough are placed on the rim of the pot, and forced to stick coated with egg. Place them onto a sheet of dough, push stick and draw the edges with the broad side of a knife within an inch of the dough to rise in layers.

Decoration

In most recipes you some dough left over from trimming. Use it for decoration.

Traditionally, only savory pies decorated to stand out from the sweet. You can use shapes leaves, flowers or seashells, which match or even fruit shapes if you want to highlight content. Gather the leftovers and turn them into three millimeters thick. Cut into shapes using for a more complex pattern of cardboard. Very useful is Cookie Cutters. To make shells, use a circular cutter for the basic shape and then cut to the shape of the shell and draw lines on a knife (see fig 1). To stick to the cake, first glasarete according to the recipe, then place over the pie shapes and the glasarete.

Figure 1: With the exception of the peripheral red lines, this is a great example of how building shell.

Grids

It is difficult to make a grid. Turn the dough into a circle on waxed paper and then cut strips into the desired size using a knife or wheel and a ruler. Place on waxed paper to another half vertical strips approximately 1 cm longer Put the strips in half and the shorter edges. Carefully lift one rather than one of the strips and lay one a.m. to one a.m. horizontal stripes, lifted by placing the strips in place before proceeding to the next. Put the grid in the fridge to tighten the dough, flip the cake onto the waxed paper and remove it. Press to hang over the pie and trim it. Glasarete and bake according to recipe.

Meat

General instructions

First of all you have to buy meat from a butcher to whom you have confidence and you are unsure about the quality of its products. Do not hesitate to ask the specialist for any questions you have and ask him to recommend a suitable meat for your recipe. Indeed, in such cases, the butcher is a valuable source of information. Besides, who knows better quality and lots of meat from him;

Just come home from the market must unwrap the meat from the papers and membranes, and the moisture of the meat along with them creates slime and make sticky. In fact, many times, if meat is left long enough within the membranes smell strongly. Place, then, in glass or stainless steel with lid and keep them in the coolest part of the refrigerator.

Failure to maintain the raw meat in the refrigerator for more than two days: in such cases it is best to freeze. Also, minced meat and offal is best to consume the same day.

If you freeze meat, minced meat, etc., do not forget the freezer because they lose some texture and flavor. When you freeze meat products, it is advisable to place them in special bags and food to write on (the bag) the date the freeze in order to consume in a short time and do not store them there for long.

A meat is exposed, even in part, in the freezer, you'll find that black and dry when you cook it remains hard, dry and tasteless. When you want to defrost meat, we must do everything in the refrigerator. So we help the meat to thaw slowly to recover, slowly - slowly, its juices.

Do not leave it outside the refrigerator and do not put it in water to defrost. There is a risk that bacteria grow and certainly will not be as tasty and juicy.

Tips

In general, you might remember that:

- Very soft pieces of meat to grill or bake oven and harder (harder are the pieces of the animal moving more) in a saucepan or microwave with a little water. Of course, always a soft meat can be cooked with liquid sauce. Instead, a hard meat never cooked dry.
- Sigomageirefoume covered the meat to soften and melosei well.
- When cooking, baking or frying of meat do not use sharp tools, well, boring one undercooked meat juices lose all that we trap.
- If you want more flavor, buy a few slices of pork belly, wrap the one a.m. to one a.m. and put in freezer until you need it.
- When not need the tomato paste diluted with water to add. Before stopping the meat with any liquid, dissolve the tomato paste at the bottom of the pot by rubbing with a spoon.
- When you pull the meat from the oven, cover immediately with foil or parchment paper, to no recover back to suck the juices for 15 minutes. Then cutting the slices, we have a juicy and delicious roast!

Pasta

General instructions

Divide the pasta into two categories: standard dry and fresh. We can manufacture our own and the two species. In the preparation should be remembered that:

- The pasta should be cooked al dente, that is to keep a bit, because it becomes dry taste and is more digestible. Those that have not been thoroughly cook raw dough taste, while those paravrasan, silt. As a general rule, we use a deep saucepan to 500 gr. pasta want 5 liters of water and a tablespoon of salt. Once the water boils and curing, immerse the pasta, stir once and boil the water again counting from that moment the boiling time. Generally, fresh pasta want 2 ', fresh pasta stuffed with (eg ravioli) want 5 minutes, dried pasta 8' - 12 ', depending on the length and shape, to put it, showing the proposed Boiling years.

- If you add fat in cooking the pasta, they become impervious and does not stick then the sauce over them. All you need is a frequent shuffling. Also, after the cook did not ever rinse with water, both for the above reason and also because they lose starch, which helps to bind the sauce to add and to be better absorbed by the pasta. Oil and rinse the pasta when it is cold to use them, eg for the manufacture makaronosalatas. It is preferable if we want a perfect pasta that holds sauce on it (and not to have, ultimately, to fill the dish), to boil the pasta 2 minutes less than they appear on the packaging and torch, as it dripping, add to the pan with the sauce, stirring and boiling for 2 minutes. We find that the sauce will melosei, ie will thicken with the starch of the pasta, they will absorb and be stuck on them.

- When you cook pasta gratin, always preheat the oven to allow temperature to 220 degrees Celsius and just put the pan in the oven turn down to 180. In this way, eggs and cream cheese quickly makes the body (solid) and not enough time to settle to the bottom of the pan.

Tips

In general, you might remember that:

- We can use leftover cooked pasta with a tomato sauce or cheese to turn it into a new food. It also enables us to exploit cooked ingredients like roast or boiled chicken, braised veal or lamb spit to create new food. For example, lamb spit and stranded pasta or macaroni can make a perfect pasta.

- Use a little water from boiled pasta to dilute thick cheese sauce.

Foods low in calories (light)

General instructions:

The diet is the most basic functions of our lives. All the latest scientific studies point to the fact that the relationship between diet and health is a key factor in longevity. Diets with foods rich in fiber and protein, with very little fat in half a century ago were described as food for the poor, now have a leading position in the diet of humans. There are good and bad foods. All edible products we offer are healthy nature. The overconsumption is doing a natural food harmful to our health. We must therefore learn to eat properly and eat different foods in the proportions requires a balanced diet. The National Academy of Sciences of the USA recommends that you take every day, only 30% of our needs in calories from fat. In accordance, not with the latest announcements of the National Cholesterol Education Program of the U.S., at least 2/3 of those calories should come from olive oil.

To reduce fat, especially saturated, we get the food, you should:

- Avoid as much as we prepared meals, desserts and snacks and meals in restaurants, because we can not control the quantity and quality of fats used in their manufacture.

- Choose lean meats and products with little fat.

- Clean all obvious fat from meat before or after cooking.

- We eat bread, fruit and vegetables every day.

- Drink skim galakai to eat fat-free dairy products.

- Cook the meat or fish with vegetables.

- Remove the skin from chicken.

- Eat meat boiled or roasted, draining the fat.

- Replace fat with beef broth to cook sauces or garnishes to accompany the meat.

- Limit the amount of oil, mayonnaise or other fat in salad dressings and fat we add to food during cooking or serving.

- We use only olive oil in cooking or salads.

- Replace meat with fish as often as we can. Fish lipids contain a group characterized as "omega-3", which have beneficial advantages for our health.

Many materials that add flavor to food does not contain any fat, such as sundried tomatoes, garlic, fresh ginger, lemon juice, vinegar, balsamic mainly replacing pleasant dressing on salads, crushed red pepper are, mushrooms and even as the aromatic truffles or porcini, sauces such as mustard, soy, teriyaki and Worcester. Important role in the taste of food, herbs play. With the wonderful aromas and flavors of the various mitigating the lack of fat. Given the general awareness of nutrition in recent years a number of commercially available low-fat products. Consumption of these products must be done in moderation. Many times, in the belief that our products do not gain weight, consume large quantities. Just consider that since the light products released in America, increased obese. Caution, therefore, not so much on what we eat, but mostly in how we eat. The way I cook, too, is as important as the quality of the materials we use. The bad cooking can alter a healthy natural product into something harmful to our health, such as oil which, when the burn, formed dioxins, toxic substances are very harmful to our health. Fresh vegetables, rich in vitamins and minerals, they lose their beneficial properties for the body when the cook much and melt or burn when frying.

To cook healthy should keep in mind the following:

- Be always count the oil or butter before using it and be sparing in their use.

- Avoid frying and prefer baking in the oven.

- Instead sauté the vegetables, boil or steaming them without putting oil and crude oil at the end.

- In pies prefer sex crust and not puff pastry dough. Aleifontas leaves us, we check the quality and quantity of fat to use.

- To tie a sauce or soup, to prefer the ground steamed vegetables instead of cream or eggs.

- Avoid using alcohol will not give anything in nutrients, only calories parapanisies.

- Do not forget to eat well and healthy, rather than to add years to our lives, but to add quality years to live.

Sources:

• 35 recipes for delicious pies, ed Maliaris Paedia.
• My confidential recipes - Meat, Arg. Barbarigos, insert of magazine 7 days Tv
• My confidential recipes - Pasta, Arg. Barbarigos, insert of magazine 7 days Tv
• The 20 best light meals, B. Alexiadou, insert of "Phileleftheros" newspaper.

Συμβουλές κουζίνας - Cuisine tips

1. Λίγες σταγόνες ξύδι ή λεμόνι κάνουν το ρυζότο ή το πιλάφισας κάτασπρο και πιο σπυρωτό.
2. Αν κατά λάθος σας έπεσε πολύ το πιπέρι και το φαγητό σας έγινε πολύ πικάντικο, προσθέστε λίγο λεμόνι ή λίγη ζάχαρη. Αυτά τα "αντίδοτα" θα μειώσουν αρκετά την καυτή γεύση.
3. Καθαρίστε την τσαγιέρα σας με 1 φλυτζάνι ξύδι, 1 φλ. νερό και τρεις μεγάλες κουταλιές αλάτι. Αφήστε την από το προηγούμενο βράδυ και την επόμενη μέρα ξεβγάλτε την καλά αρκετές φορές.
4. Οι μελιτζάνες έχουν την ιδιότητα να απορροφούν κατά το μαγείρεμα, σοτάρισμα ή τηγάνισμα τους πολύ λάδι, με αποτέλεσμα να γίνονται δύσπεπτες και αρκετά παχυντικές. Αν όμως, αφού τις ξεπικρίσετε, τις βουτήξετε για 6 λεπτά στη μπύρα, θα απορροφήσουν λιγότερο λάδι και θα γίνουν πιο ελαφριές.
5. Για να διαπιστώσετε αν τα όσπρια που αγοράσατε ή θα αγοράσετε είναι φρέσκα, δαγκώστε τα ελαφρά. Αν η σάρκα τους είναι σχετικά μαλακή και υποχωρεί, τότε είναι φρέσκα. Αν όμως σπάει σαν καραμέλα, τότε είναι πολυκαιρισμένα.
6. Αν θεωρείτε ότι παίρνετε λιγότερη ποσότητα φυτικών ινών, τότε φτιάξτε ένα γρήγορο σνακ που θα σας δώσει τη μισή περίπου ποσότητα ινών της ημερήσιας συνιστωμένης δόσης. Αναμίξτε 2 κουταλιές γιαούρτι με ένα φλυτζάνι ψιλοκομμένα αποξηραμένα σύκα, βερίκοκα, δαμάσκηνα και 2 κουταλιές ηλιόσπορους ή αμύγδαλα.
7. Αν κάποιο ρούχο σας έχει κάποιο λιπαρό λεκέ και το προσέξατε την ώρα που το σιδερώνετε, τότε υπάρχει τρόπος να τον απομακρύνετε. Διπλώνετε ένα παγάκι σε ένα καθαρό πανί και το τρίβετε επάνω στο λεκέ. Μετά το σιδερώνετε και ο λεκές εξαφανίστηκε!

1. A few drops of vinegar or lemon make risotto or pilafisas white and more granular.
2. If you accidentally dropped too much pepper and your food was too spicy, add some lemon and some sugar. These "antidotes" will considerably reduce the hot taste.
3. Clean your tea 1 cup vinegar, 1 cup water and three large tablespoons of salt. Let the night before and the next day rinse the well several times.
4. The eggplants have the capacity to absorb during cooking, sautéing or frying them much oil, so be indigestible and quite fattening. But if, after the unbitter, the dive for 6 minutes on beer will absorb less oil and will become lighter.
5. To see if the beans you bought or will buy is fresh, light bite. If the flesh is relatively soft and disappears, then it is fresh. But if it breaks like candy, then it is old.
6. If you feel that you get less amount of fiber, then Make a quick snack that will give you about half the daily amount of fiber recommended dose. Mix 2 tablespoons of yogurt with a cup of chopped dried figs, apricots, plums and 2 tablespoons sunflower seeds or almonds.
7. If your garment have a greasy stain and watch it while the iron, there is a way to remove it.Fold an ice cube in a clean cloth and rub onto the stain. After the iron and the stain disappeared!